Creating and maintaining fulfilling emotional relationships with loved ones can be difficult.

Sometimes the way we communicate our love is not received the way it was intended .

This can create many problems if not addressed.

A lot of people don’t know much about love languages, so I’m here to tell you all about it 🙂

You can also click here to read my post on date night if you’re looking for new & fun ideas!

What are love languages?

Everyone experiences love differently, and the way we prefer to receive love is a key ingredient to having a fulfilling relationship.

The 5 love languages are

• • Acts of service

• • Receiving Gifts

• • Words of Affirmation

• • Quality Time

• • Physical Touch

Why are love languages important?

If someone tries to love you in a way you don’t prefer it’s never going to translate the way you want it to. Knowing your spouse would rather take an evening walk with you over being given flowers is necessary if you’re looking for a fulfilling long-term relationship.

Often people don’t know what it means to be loving to their partners, which can leave a person feeling unsatisfied, and possibly unloved.

If you’re lucky you and your spouse will have the same love language- my husband and I both prefer quality time, followed closely by physical touch.

How we want to receive love is the same, so we know how to give the other what they need.

In many cases it unfortunately isn’t that easy, and can be a stressor to any relationship.

I observed throughout my life that my mom’s love language is quality time, and my dad’s love language is acts of service.

I’ve witnessed what can happen when certain needs aren’t met in a relationship.

• arguments
• misunderstandings
• resentment
• tension

Learning and understanding your partners’ love language to keep their love tank full can potentially avoid these problems, therefore strengthening your relationship.

What is a love tank?

Think of it like a gas tank, because the same principles apply. To keep your car going you need to fill up the engine. If you use it every day you need to fill it up constantly or it won’t operate the way you want.

To get the most out of your relationship you need to constantly fill it up.

You can’t leave it unattended if you want all the benefits that come with it.

From my experience what sustains a relationship is the effort you put into it, not love alone.

Finding out your love language

Before you learn someone else’s it’s important to know what your own love language is, and how you prefer to be loved. If you haven’t yet take a minute to reflect on past experiences.

What actions do you most appreciate from your loved ones?

Do you like when your partner surprises you with something that you’ve had your eye on?

On the other hand, maybe you prefer when someone tells you how much you mean to them.

Whether it’s Receiving Gifts, Words of Affirmation, or something else – it’s nice to know!

My husband and I took the quiz on 5lovelanguages.com , and we had so much fun answering the questions together.

Even though we know what our love languages are after being together for over a decade, it was nice to see a visual breakdown of our preferences!

You can take the quiz as an adult, a teenager, or for your child.

Also, keep in mind that they have 3 other quizzes that are super helpful and eye-opening!

• Apology language (understand how to heal your hurt)
• Anger Assessment (how you manage your anger)
• Appreciation language (what makes you feel appreciated in the workplace)

They also have great resources if your child is too young to express their love language.

Overall, it’s a great tool to use when figuring this all out.

In conclusion-

Love languages is not just a romantic thing, and you can use them to take the relationships in your life to the next level!